If your parents raised you right they taught you to be the bigger person and apologize when you are wrong. This is an important lesson that we need to learn: to admit when we messed up and own up to it. But somewhere along the line a lot of us started to learn that apologizing is an easy way to immediately diffuse a situation and started to do it a little too much.
Stop apologizing when you have done nothing wrong.
So many of us cannot stand to have people be unhappy with us and we apologize just so we don’t have to argue anymore. How does it show someone what they are doing is wrong when THEY do something wrong and in the end WE end up apologizing? It makes absolutely zero sense.
Many of us are so afraid to offend people that “sorry” has become a filler word, like “um”. Sometimes I want to turn to people and ask “what are you sorry for…?”.
The sad part is, even when we know that someone has wronged us, most of the time we are the ones who end up saying “sorry”. We overanalyze the situation and we somehow turn it back on ourselves and suddenly believe that we are the ones who did something wrong. DO NOT APOLOGIZE WHEN YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG.
Don’t say “sorry” unless you have completely messed up and want to make sure that people know how genuinely apologetic you are. Unless that is the situation, you should not be saying the “S” word.
Stop apologizing for going after what you want in life.
Stop apologizing for not meeting other people’s expectations.
Stop apologizing because you don’t want the same things that other people want.
Stop apologizing for thinking of yourself first sometimes.
Stop apologizing because someone is older than you and you think you have to be respectful. Rude is rude, no matter what age.
Stop apologizing for being honest.
Stop apologizing because you are intimidated by people.
Stop apologizing because you don’t understand something.
Stop apologizing because you are too afraid to offend someone.
Stop apologizing over things that are out of your control.
Stop apologizing for being yourself.
In the wise words of modern day philosopher Beyonce, “I ain’t sorry”.
Do you think Beyonce wastes her time apologizing to people who she doesn’t need to be apologizing to? Nope. She just lives fiercely and unapologetically.